Home for a family in need
Date Published: 2/16/2026
Good Day
Greetings from South Africa, could you please assist us? Do you know of companies who will donate to help a family in need towards money to buy a house? I don't know where to look and my husband and I can't afford rent in Cape Town and we can't buy. I'm not working and I'm 50 and my husband is a sassa pensioner who only gets R2300 a month and I get a R370 unemployed grant for myself and my daughter gets R560 children's grant, in total this comes to R3230 (in dollars that's $293 a month), we can't even afford to rent privately because rent here is from anywhere R5000 to R13 000 a month ($452 to $1180). The government only gives us an increase of $0.90 to $2.93 for unemployed & child grant, pensioners get an increase of $4.55 yearly. If I can start a back a buddy perhaps, who can I send it to help us or could you share it with your sponsors PLEASE? I'm this desperate that I am now humbling myself to other countries.
I just want a house so that my youngest daughter has a place to call home, she is 14 (she loves drawing anime and wants to go to art school). Next month I'll be 25 years on housing waiting list and you know how that goes. I even went as far as getting a meeting with Dan Plato (our then mayor) a few years back and he left us with his colleague that told me I'll never get a house.
I'm begging as I don't know what to do anymore, and I don't know who to contact, I've exhausted all avenues. I have a property that I have my eyes set on, it's been abandoned and squatters have been living on it but I need the money to approach municipality before someone else buys it. I know they won't ask much for it since it's been vandalised but it won't be cheap either. My husband and I don't qualify to get a loan to buy it and build up that's why I thought maybe you'd know of companies who will donate to a back a buddy program perhaps to buy and build or is there a possibility you can raise funds for us to buy the property and build on? My husband is good in waterproofing, roofing but he can't bag big jobs like factories that would make a difference.
I've had a lot of downs in my life. When I was young I was sexually abused by 4 family members for sometime, but it never ruled my life. My mother would tell me when I was young that I'm a rubbish just like my father, not sure if my mother has a grudge against me because my father who used to abuse her, he used to punch her till she bled. My mother has thrown me out before and I would roam the streets for 3 days and nights until I couldn't stay awake and end up sleeping for an evening perhaps by a friend or a stranger. My mother has a really nasty habit of always looking what someone else has and begrudging them. Sometimes its like walking on egg shells around her as we live with her now since my husband and I got involved as we can't buy our own house, we've been together now 26 years and married 21 years of that 26 years. My husband lost his job in 2013, he got jobs with other companies but the bosses were racist and now is a government pensioner and gets very little money and I lost my job also in 2012 because my boss had a problem with me being pregnant. My boss used to tell me to resign, he would threaten me with retrenchment during my pregnancy, I had to go to her 1st anti-natal check up on a Friday and I told her boss about it, he told me if I go then I shouldn't come back to work the Monday so I never went and ended up the Saturday in hospital because I started bleeding, so the doctor booked me off for a week due to stress. I bled throughout her pregnancy due to my boss stressing me out till 8 months pregnancy, he would call me in almost on a weekly basis and threaten me and he told me in one meeting he's paying off 3 houses (not sure what that had to do with me and my work as he commended me on my work performance before I became pregnant). At 8 months pregnant I couldn't take it anymore and went to the CCMA (a place that's supposed to fight for employee's rights) after he said he's cutting my salary by R2000 and going to retrench me. CCMA is supposed to help you but they never helped much even though I told them he threatened me with my job and demoted me to a small room like a leper on my own. They just told him to re-instate me after maternity leave which he didn't do, the very same week when I returned to work after maternity leave he retrenched me saying he has two people in position as he put the cleaner in my place while I was on maternity leave and said it's last in and 1st out rule which wasn't the case as he had a few consultants he hired after me. I tried getting another job but couldn't land anything permanent so I decided that since both of us weren't working and I was in admin and my husband used to do maintenance of buildings, roofing etc we do our own thing. It worked a bit by putting food on the table and buying a second hand bakkie but wasn't enough to get us on our own, never landed big enough jobs to get us rooted and customers has since declined. I've had health issues since the birth of her 3rd daughter in 2012 which saw me in and out hospital so I couldn't exactly look for work. I had two health issues, one a bleeding problem which ended up me being hospitalized in June 2013 for the weekend, they put me on drip to stop the bleeding and since then I've been a guinea pig with using tablets and probing to try and get my bleeding under control as my periods were a week long and I would bleed twice a month (one week then no blood for one week and then next week blood and so on and so forth). My other health issue happened when my daughter was only 5 days old. I started getting this pain in her upper back that I couldn't move, started sweating and throwing up from the pain. We rushed to hospital and my husband had to sit whole night with the 5 day old baby in the waiting room as I was breast feeding. The hospital did nothing for me that night, I sat whole night in pain and throwing up. I would have several of these attacks throughout the years, I would end up in emergency at Somerset Hospital. One day a doctor told me I have acid and gave her lanceloc for acid, they never did the proper test with a scope to actually see if it is that, they just gave me tablets. I used it and would keep suffering and ending up in emergency for another 4 or so years until I decided to go to another hospital (Groote Schuur), I explained to the doctor the symptoms and told her what the doctor at Somerset said. This doctor also just said it's acid without proper investigations and also gave me the same tablets. I carried on using it and would frequent the emergency at Groote Schuur for the next 3 or so years and then stopped going as I would most often sit in emergency whole night and not be seen or be told the same thing, I rather opted to suffer at home over the kitchen sink when I was in pain and throwing up until it passed then had to go sleep as it drained my energy. Then one night I had an attack again and decided to give Somerset hospital another chance and went there but this time it was tender under my breast which I told the doctor who had me lay down and examined me. The doctor told me to go for an xray and sent me for a scan because she said that she's sure it's the gallbladder.
The 8 years of my suffering and it was the gallbladder the whole time, I was admitted to hospital for a week and two days as I had yellow jaundice due to a stone stuck in some pipe near my liver that had to be removed. After that I was hospitalized a month later again for a week. They said I would need surgery to remove the gallbladder, then covid came and the operation was postponed for a year or so later. Time came and doctor postponed again saying I needed to loose 20 kilograms before operation and gave me 3 months to do so, I only lost 10 kilograms (half of what was expected). The day when I was admitted the doctor who told me to loose and the surgeon argued in front of me about my weight, the surgeon said she could do the operation and the other doctor argued about my weight which made me very nervous so I postponed operation to try a few months to loose more weight. Eventually in November 2021 they scheduled a date for operation (although I couldn't loose more weight). On the 8th or 9th November 2021 I was admitted, did all the tests to check if I was right for operation, heart etc. Then they did the operation, they could only removed a third of the gallbladder as I think it grew intertwined with my liver from all the years of neglect. My husband visited me after my surgery as I asked him to bring me something to eat and drink as you must be nil per mouth before surgery, not eat or drink. I asked him to help me to toilet as the drip didn't have one of those portable stands where I could hang it on when I went to toilet, I struggled to urinate and only got a little out when I sat so long on toilet. The nurse complained because my husband was with me in female's toilet but they don't help me when I needed help. My husband helped me to bed and then I wanted him to help me put pads in below as it was my monthly time and he refused as there were other woman in the room as you share rooms with a few patients, we had a slight argument and then he refused and left. He just got home when the hospital phoned him to give permission for an emergency surgery as there was complications. I went into a coma after that and my husband came to hospital to see me, the matron on duty told him they going to transport me to Groote Schuur as they didn't have a kidney specialist as my kidneys shut down, my one lung collapsed, I think also they had to resuscitate me according to my daughter. The matron told my husband to prepare for the worst and the ambulance guy told him the same. My husband came to visit daily while I was in a coma, my husband said I was so bloated up and was on so many machines helping me. I was on life support, breathing tube, drips in my neck as they couldn't get veins, a machine that was helping my one collapsed lung, feeding tube, dialysis machine to flush out the poison, the one nurse told my husband she's a fighter. After about a week or so I came back to. My husband was so relieved as this was the most stressful time in his entire life, our youngest daughter was only 10 years old. I had to learn to walk again and was a month and half in hospital. I have slowly been trying to get back to my old self, I've got the battle scars of the incident, in my buttocks is hard lumps that formed while laying in hospital that I complained about, I've put on more weight again but going to try to loose it in this new year. I approached a pro bono lawyer to sue to the health department for all the years of unnecessary suffering but our law is not the same as America's, here you can't just sue and win, the lawyers dropped the case as the health department said they followed proper procedure which is unbelievable.
We are living in a house with 10 people and there's always conflict, we get threatened occasionally with eviction, we are at our wits end and don't know where to turn to so I'm begging PLEASE can someone help us by donating towards buying the property and fixing up. If you know of any companies there that are willing to help raise funds for us, it would be really appreciated. We need about R900 000 (about $81 800).
Regards
Tanya
Greetings from South Africa, could you please assist us? Do you know of companies who will donate to help a family in need towards money to buy a house? I don't know where to look and my husband and I can't afford rent in Cape Town and we can't buy. I'm not working and I'm 50 and my husband is a sassa pensioner who only gets R2300 a month and I get a R370 unemployed grant for myself and my daughter gets R560 children's grant, in total this comes to R3230 (in dollars that's $293 a month), we can't even afford to rent privately because rent here is from anywhere R5000 to R13 000 a month ($452 to $1180). The government only gives us an increase of $0.90 to $2.93 for unemployed & child grant, pensioners get an increase of $4.55 yearly. If I can start a back a buddy perhaps, who can I send it to help us or could you share it with your sponsors PLEASE? I'm this desperate that I am now humbling myself to other countries.
I just want a house so that my youngest daughter has a place to call home, she is 14 (she loves drawing anime and wants to go to art school). Next month I'll be 25 years on housing waiting list and you know how that goes. I even went as far as getting a meeting with Dan Plato (our then mayor) a few years back and he left us with his colleague that told me I'll never get a house.
I'm begging as I don't know what to do anymore, and I don't know who to contact, I've exhausted all avenues. I have a property that I have my eyes set on, it's been abandoned and squatters have been living on it but I need the money to approach municipality before someone else buys it. I know they won't ask much for it since it's been vandalised but it won't be cheap either. My husband and I don't qualify to get a loan to buy it and build up that's why I thought maybe you'd know of companies who will donate to a back a buddy program perhaps to buy and build or is there a possibility you can raise funds for us to buy the property and build on? My husband is good in waterproofing, roofing but he can't bag big jobs like factories that would make a difference.
I've had a lot of downs in my life. When I was young I was sexually abused by 4 family members for sometime, but it never ruled my life. My mother would tell me when I was young that I'm a rubbish just like my father, not sure if my mother has a grudge against me because my father who used to abuse her, he used to punch her till she bled. My mother has thrown me out before and I would roam the streets for 3 days and nights until I couldn't stay awake and end up sleeping for an evening perhaps by a friend or a stranger. My mother has a really nasty habit of always looking what someone else has and begrudging them. Sometimes its like walking on egg shells around her as we live with her now since my husband and I got involved as we can't buy our own house, we've been together now 26 years and married 21 years of that 26 years. My husband lost his job in 2013, he got jobs with other companies but the bosses were racist and now is a government pensioner and gets very little money and I lost my job also in 2012 because my boss had a problem with me being pregnant. My boss used to tell me to resign, he would threaten me with retrenchment during my pregnancy, I had to go to her 1st anti-natal check up on a Friday and I told her boss about it, he told me if I go then I shouldn't come back to work the Monday so I never went and ended up the Saturday in hospital because I started bleeding, so the doctor booked me off for a week due to stress. I bled throughout her pregnancy due to my boss stressing me out till 8 months pregnancy, he would call me in almost on a weekly basis and threaten me and he told me in one meeting he's paying off 3 houses (not sure what that had to do with me and my work as he commended me on my work performance before I became pregnant). At 8 months pregnant I couldn't take it anymore and went to the CCMA (a place that's supposed to fight for employee's rights) after he said he's cutting my salary by R2000 and going to retrench me. CCMA is supposed to help you but they never helped much even though I told them he threatened me with my job and demoted me to a small room like a leper on my own. They just told him to re-instate me after maternity leave which he didn't do, the very same week when I returned to work after maternity leave he retrenched me saying he has two people in position as he put the cleaner in my place while I was on maternity leave and said it's last in and 1st out rule which wasn't the case as he had a few consultants he hired after me. I tried getting another job but couldn't land anything permanent so I decided that since both of us weren't working and I was in admin and my husband used to do maintenance of buildings, roofing etc we do our own thing. It worked a bit by putting food on the table and buying a second hand bakkie but wasn't enough to get us on our own, never landed big enough jobs to get us rooted and customers has since declined. I've had health issues since the birth of her 3rd daughter in 2012 which saw me in and out hospital so I couldn't exactly look for work. I had two health issues, one a bleeding problem which ended up me being hospitalized in June 2013 for the weekend, they put me on drip to stop the bleeding and since then I've been a guinea pig with using tablets and probing to try and get my bleeding under control as my periods were a week long and I would bleed twice a month (one week then no blood for one week and then next week blood and so on and so forth). My other health issue happened when my daughter was only 5 days old. I started getting this pain in her upper back that I couldn't move, started sweating and throwing up from the pain. We rushed to hospital and my husband had to sit whole night with the 5 day old baby in the waiting room as I was breast feeding. The hospital did nothing for me that night, I sat whole night in pain and throwing up. I would have several of these attacks throughout the years, I would end up in emergency at Somerset Hospital. One day a doctor told me I have acid and gave her lanceloc for acid, they never did the proper test with a scope to actually see if it is that, they just gave me tablets. I used it and would keep suffering and ending up in emergency for another 4 or so years until I decided to go to another hospital (Groote Schuur), I explained to the doctor the symptoms and told her what the doctor at Somerset said. This doctor also just said it's acid without proper investigations and also gave me the same tablets. I carried on using it and would frequent the emergency at Groote Schuur for the next 3 or so years and then stopped going as I would most often sit in emergency whole night and not be seen or be told the same thing, I rather opted to suffer at home over the kitchen sink when I was in pain and throwing up until it passed then had to go sleep as it drained my energy. Then one night I had an attack again and decided to give Somerset hospital another chance and went there but this time it was tender under my breast which I told the doctor who had me lay down and examined me. The doctor told me to go for an xray and sent me for a scan because she said that she's sure it's the gallbladder.
The 8 years of my suffering and it was the gallbladder the whole time, I was admitted to hospital for a week and two days as I had yellow jaundice due to a stone stuck in some pipe near my liver that had to be removed. After that I was hospitalized a month later again for a week. They said I would need surgery to remove the gallbladder, then covid came and the operation was postponed for a year or so later. Time came and doctor postponed again saying I needed to loose 20 kilograms before operation and gave me 3 months to do so, I only lost 10 kilograms (half of what was expected). The day when I was admitted the doctor who told me to loose and the surgeon argued in front of me about my weight, the surgeon said she could do the operation and the other doctor argued about my weight which made me very nervous so I postponed operation to try a few months to loose more weight. Eventually in November 2021 they scheduled a date for operation (although I couldn't loose more weight). On the 8th or 9th November 2021 I was admitted, did all the tests to check if I was right for operation, heart etc. Then they did the operation, they could only removed a third of the gallbladder as I think it grew intertwined with my liver from all the years of neglect. My husband visited me after my surgery as I asked him to bring me something to eat and drink as you must be nil per mouth before surgery, not eat or drink. I asked him to help me to toilet as the drip didn't have one of those portable stands where I could hang it on when I went to toilet, I struggled to urinate and only got a little out when I sat so long on toilet. The nurse complained because my husband was with me in female's toilet but they don't help me when I needed help. My husband helped me to bed and then I wanted him to help me put pads in below as it was my monthly time and he refused as there were other woman in the room as you share rooms with a few patients, we had a slight argument and then he refused and left. He just got home when the hospital phoned him to give permission for an emergency surgery as there was complications. I went into a coma after that and my husband came to hospital to see me, the matron on duty told him they going to transport me to Groote Schuur as they didn't have a kidney specialist as my kidneys shut down, my one lung collapsed, I think also they had to resuscitate me according to my daughter. The matron told my husband to prepare for the worst and the ambulance guy told him the same. My husband came to visit daily while I was in a coma, my husband said I was so bloated up and was on so many machines helping me. I was on life support, breathing tube, drips in my neck as they couldn't get veins, a machine that was helping my one collapsed lung, feeding tube, dialysis machine to flush out the poison, the one nurse told my husband she's a fighter. After about a week or so I came back to. My husband was so relieved as this was the most stressful time in his entire life, our youngest daughter was only 10 years old. I had to learn to walk again and was a month and half in hospital. I have slowly been trying to get back to my old self, I've got the battle scars of the incident, in my buttocks is hard lumps that formed while laying in hospital that I complained about, I've put on more weight again but going to try to loose it in this new year. I approached a pro bono lawyer to sue to the health department for all the years of unnecessary suffering but our law is not the same as America's, here you can't just sue and win, the lawyers dropped the case as the health department said they followed proper procedure which is unbelievable.
We are living in a house with 10 people and there's always conflict, we get threatened occasionally with eviction, we are at our wits end and don't know where to turn to so I'm begging PLEASE can someone help us by donating towards buying the property and fixing up. If you know of any companies there that are willing to help raise funds for us, it would be really appreciated. We need about R900 000 (about $81 800).
Regards
Tanya
