Love And Final Destination
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Rowan Breytenbach and Gavin Field.
Our Story: When we met, it was love at first sight. Over time it grew and grew until it was only matched by the pain and trauma we both endured in our lives. Rowan's mother died when he was 14. He has Bipolar and Body Dysmorphia since 2008. His brother committed suicide in 2012. Rowan battled his conditions, working jobs to survive until 2015 when he got a job as a Social Media Content Elicitor at a publishing firm which he thrived in. He kept working and excelling despite his conditions. He took care of his father financially. In late 2019 he came across his father's dead body after a heart attack. In spite of it, he still thrived in his job and started handling his father's probate. With the arrival of Covid - 19 Rowan was retrenched after 5 years of service due to operational requirements. Since then he finished his father's probate, working temp jobs and surviving for the next 2 years until his father's probate was done and he had to move out. He survived on the inheritance of his father, moving around looking for work, living with family, friends and strangers who lured him in under false pretences with the promise of a job. He was mentally ill, jobless, which made him an easy target for such ruses. All of this was very traumatic for Rowan which caused the effects of his mental conditions to worsen. After much thought he decided the best route foward was to start the process of applying for a mental disability SASSA government grant.
He went to see a GP who gave him medication and a reference letter to a state hospital mental ward for further assistance. Rowan has no medical aid. The harsh truth is, that for the last 4 years, Rowan had wanted to die, fighting against it until he met Gavin. The connection, similarities and love between them was indescribible from the start, and it still is, it made Rowan want to live again, for the first time in 4 years he has now got someone to live and fight for. Gavin's story is in many ways similar to that of Rowan's. He has also been suffering from Bipolar disorder for the last 19 years, battling the condition along with the demands and vicissitudes of life. Gavin has endured 45 years of life, surviving with this very often crippling condition, also having to live with a very controlling and manipulative family. He also endured an abusive relationship for 18 years, one he came out of alive but not undamaged. After all of it, and after meeting and falling deeply in love with Rowan, he also decided to pursue the route of applying for the SASSA grant.The Problem: They have recently moved in together, just the 2 of them as living with family and friends does not work due to their family histories in combination with the effects of their conditions, creating a toxic environment for them. Both of them suffer from the same condition, yet somewhow they bring out the best in each other.
They support and carry each other in ways that just work.
All they want is to be together, love each other and have some semblence of independence and happiness together.
That is why the grant is needed as it would give the 35 and 45 year old some financial freedom. The couple however, are starting over with nothing. Unfortunately it takes 3 months from date of approval for the SASSA grant to start paying out, and the 2 men are still in the process of applying for it. Currently they have barely enough money to survive for another month, let alone pay rent for another full month for a roof over their heads. After 2 decades of suffering, they found each other, brought each other back to life, and love each other with all their hearts.The plea for help: Please help us survive until we are able to draw our Sassa grants, we beg of you. After all we have been through, losing each other would be a blow I'm afraid neither of us would survive or recover from. We are currently living in a lodging house, renting a worn out room for R1700 per month, with a house full of people who uses one bathroom so we take cold to lukewarm baths every 2nd day. As we have nothing and are starting over, we have bought the cheapest double bed we could find, a kettle, 2 cups, toiletries and cutlery. There is no means here to cook for ourselves so we have to live off of cheap take aways and soup and bread. Currently our financial situation is bad, we have less than R1000 left to buy food and electricity. Can anyone please help us in the form of donations, any form of work, or a roof over our heads until we start receiving our SASSA grants? We would do just about anything to stay together and live out the rest of our days by each other's sides.There is almost no price we wouldn't pay, so please, if you can find it in your heart to donate, please reach out. There is no feeling, no pursuit more worthy than a love like this. "The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it." We made love our goal. Please make it yours too. Love, Rowan & Gavin.
Our Story: When we met, it was love at first sight. Over time it grew and grew until it was only matched by the pain and trauma we both endured in our lives. Rowan's mother died when he was 14. He has Bipolar and Body Dysmorphia since 2008. His brother committed suicide in 2012. Rowan battled his conditions, working jobs to survive until 2015 when he got a job as a Social Media Content Elicitor at a publishing firm which he thrived in. He kept working and excelling despite his conditions. He took care of his father financially. In late 2019 he came across his father's dead body after a heart attack. In spite of it, he still thrived in his job and started handling his father's probate. With the arrival of Covid - 19 Rowan was retrenched after 5 years of service due to operational requirements. Since then he finished his father's probate, working temp jobs and surviving for the next 2 years until his father's probate was done and he had to move out. He survived on the inheritance of his father, moving around looking for work, living with family, friends and strangers who lured him in under false pretences with the promise of a job. He was mentally ill, jobless, which made him an easy target for such ruses. All of this was very traumatic for Rowan which caused the effects of his mental conditions to worsen. After much thought he decided the best route foward was to start the process of applying for a mental disability SASSA government grant.
He went to see a GP who gave him medication and a reference letter to a state hospital mental ward for further assistance. Rowan has no medical aid. The harsh truth is, that for the last 4 years, Rowan had wanted to die, fighting against it until he met Gavin. The connection, similarities and love between them was indescribible from the start, and it still is, it made Rowan want to live again, for the first time in 4 years he has now got someone to live and fight for. Gavin's story is in many ways similar to that of Rowan's. He has also been suffering from Bipolar disorder for the last 19 years, battling the condition along with the demands and vicissitudes of life. Gavin has endured 45 years of life, surviving with this very often crippling condition, also having to live with a very controlling and manipulative family. He also endured an abusive relationship for 18 years, one he came out of alive but not undamaged. After all of it, and after meeting and falling deeply in love with Rowan, he also decided to pursue the route of applying for the SASSA grant.The Problem: They have recently moved in together, just the 2 of them as living with family and friends does not work due to their family histories in combination with the effects of their conditions, creating a toxic environment for them. Both of them suffer from the same condition, yet somewhow they bring out the best in each other.
They support and carry each other in ways that just work.
All they want is to be together, love each other and have some semblence of independence and happiness together.
That is why the grant is needed as it would give the 35 and 45 year old some financial freedom. The couple however, are starting over with nothing. Unfortunately it takes 3 months from date of approval for the SASSA grant to start paying out, and the 2 men are still in the process of applying for it. Currently they have barely enough money to survive for another month, let alone pay rent for another full month for a roof over their heads. After 2 decades of suffering, they found each other, brought each other back to life, and love each other with all their hearts.The plea for help: Please help us survive until we are able to draw our Sassa grants, we beg of you. After all we have been through, losing each other would be a blow I'm afraid neither of us would survive or recover from. We are currently living in a lodging house, renting a worn out room for R1700 per month, with a house full of people who uses one bathroom so we take cold to lukewarm baths every 2nd day. As we have nothing and are starting over, we have bought the cheapest double bed we could find, a kettle, 2 cups, toiletries and cutlery. There is no means here to cook for ourselves so we have to live off of cheap take aways and soup and bread. Currently our financial situation is bad, we have less than R1000 left to buy food and electricity. Can anyone please help us in the form of donations, any form of work, or a roof over our heads until we start receiving our SASSA grants? We would do just about anything to stay together and live out the rest of our days by each other's sides.There is almost no price we wouldn't pay, so please, if you can find it in your heart to donate, please reach out. There is no feeling, no pursuit more worthy than a love like this. "The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it." We made love our goal. Please make it yours too. Love, Rowan & Gavin.
